[Congressional Record Volume 169, Number 109 (Thursday, June 22, 2023)]
[House]
[Pages H3099-H3101]
From the Congressional Record Online through the Government Publishing Office [www.gpo.gov]
RECOGNIZING HENRY BERG-BROUSSEAU
The SPEAKER pro tempore. Under the Speaker's announced policy of
January 9, 2023, the gentleman from Kentucky (Mr. McGarvey) is
recognized for 60 minutes as the designee of the minority leader.
General Leave
Mr. McGARVEY. Madam Speaker, I ask unanimous consent that all Members
may have 5 legislative days in which to revise and extend their remarks
and include extraneous material in the Record.
The SPEAKER pro tempore. Is there objection to the request of the
gentleman from Kentucky?
There was no objection.
Mr. McGARVEY. Madam Speaker, I rise tonight to tell everybody about
one of my former interns in the Kentucky State Senate, Henry Berg-
Brousseau.
Henry was truly one of my favorite interns. He was one of those guys
who was bright, curious, and had a smile that could light up the room.
In Kentucky, in the State senate, the Kentucky Capitol Annex is
behind the capitol and we would make that walk across to the State
capitol, just as we make the walk across here in Washington, D.C., from
the House office buildings.
Henry was incessant, constantly peppering me with questions, asking
me things: What are the policies we can do? What are the fights we can
have? How do we make progress? How do we get things done in the seat of
government?
Henry was brilliant. He was kind, ambitious, and really funny. Most
importantly, Henry was a fighter. He had to be. Despite having two
loving parents and a wonderful family, Henry's life wasn't easy. He was
severely bullied as a kid and he battled with the trauma and the
depression that went with it.
It wasn't coming from the kids either. Adults from all walks of life
bullied and berated him incessantly until the end. Unfortunately, that
end came way too soon.
Last December, on December 16, Henry died by suicide. He dedicated
his life--his young life--to helping people like him. His work and
legacy will continue to benefit youth all across this country. I can't
help but think how much he would have given to this world if he had
just been allowed the chance to exist and exist in peace.
Henry's mom, Karen, recently joined the President and First Lady on
the South Lawn of the White House to celebrate Pride Month. That is not
where she wanted to be. You never stop being a parent. She wants to be
with her son.
Henry's story is truly tragic but, unfortunately, it is not unique.
We can all agree that what I just described is a tragedy. It is a
tragedy to lose a young person, a tragedy to lose somebody with so much
potential, a tragedy for any parent to have to bury their baby.
Yet for some, when I tell you that Henry was trans, that tragedy goes
away. His humanity is erased. Henry is erased. I can't accept that.
We can't bring Henry back, but we can continue his fight to end the
suffering that he and way, way, way too many others have endured by
people who refuse to acknowledge the humanity of trans people and try
to criminalize their very existence.
More than 80 percent of transgender people have struggled with
suicidal ideation, and nearly half have attempted suicide. The Trevor
Project estimates that one LGBTQ+ child attempts suicide every 45
seconds in the United States. Every 45 seconds a child tries to kill
themselves--a child.
What has our response to this tragedy been?
In the first 6 months of Congress, House Republicans have passed
legislation that actually makes it worse, that further harms LGBTQ+
kids, from the so-called Parents Bill of Rights, which unfairly targets
our most vulnerable youth, to the national bans that deny
decisionmaking abilities of doctors, coaches, and parents.
We have tried to complicate these issues. I want to make it really
clear and really simple: Stop being mean to kids. Our children are not
pieces in a political game. These anti-LGBTQ+ bills have real-life
consequences.
Instead of legislating with the kindness and compassion that our kids
need, House Republicans' legislative priorities have been overreaching,
callous, and cruel.
We are not alone in that blame. Unfortunately, Congress isn't the
only institution passing these heinous, heartbreaking, and harmful
laws. State legislators across the country are following suit and are
trying to legislate LGBTQ youth out of existence.
In my home State of Kentucky, Republicans in the general assembly
made things worse and overrode the Governor's veto of one of the most
oppressive trans laws in the Nation at the eleventh hour.
Senate Bill 150 tramples the rights of children and parents with
exclusionary bathroom policies. It overrules the judgment of teachers
by barring the discussion of gender identity or sexual orientation, and
it barricades doctors from their patients by banning gender-affirming
care, which is often lifesaving care. It is cruel and it is not without
consequence. It is hurting people across the Commonwealth of Kentucky
and across our country right now.
Madam Speaker, I find it especially ironic that these overreaching
policies come from the party of small government.
Last week, we kicked off the beginning of Pride Month. The impetus
for pride goes back to Stonewall when the LGBTQ+ community transformed
the fight for equality in the United States.
Pride Month is meant to be a joyous celebration of free expression,
equality, inclusion, and resiliency. In just the time that I have been
in public office, we have made huge strides, both big and small, at
every level.
We have cemented marriage rights for everyone. In Kentucky, 24 cities
have a fairness ordinance. Nationwide, 21 States have restricted
conversion therapy. Also, 38 States allow trans people to update their
name and gender identity on their drivers license, and 27 States allow
the same for birth certificates.
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Alongside members of the LGBTQ+ community and advocates, we have
worked hard to move the needle toward a more loving, accepting, and
inclusive world. What has been accomplished is important, but there is
still so much to do. There is still so much more to fight for.
We are fighting for safety. We are fighting for equality. We are
fighting for freedom. We just recently marked the seventh anniversary
of the Pulse nightclub shooting in Orlando, Florida, where 49 people
were killed just for being themselves.
Madam Speaker, on days like today when we talk about these issues,
when it should be a celebration, I still can't help but think about
some of the heartbreak. Today, I can't help but think about Henry. I
think about the world that he was fighting for--a more compassionate,
understanding, caring place for everyone.
These extremist Republican attacks against LGBTQ people are wrong.
They are unacceptable. They are inhumane. Let me be perfectly clear:
The words and acts coming from our colleagues are not harmless. They
are not small. They are hurting innocent people and they are hurting
children.
If we don't take a stand and change how we legislate, then we will
see more kids like Henry--bright, energetic, enthusiastic, kind,
caring, compassionate people who will struggle; who, despite the love
from friends and family, will see no way out as these attacks become
too painful to bear.
Madam Speaker, here in this Chamber, in this body, in life, our job
is to fight for people. Our job is to fight for people in the margins.
Our job is to fight for people like Henry and to fight to protect
everyone's rights. It shouldn't matter who you are. It shouldn't matter
who you love or where you come from. Everyone deserves to be treated
equally.
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Madam Speaker, I yield to the gentlewoman from Vermont (Ms. Balint)
for her remarks.
Ms. BALINT. Madam Speaker, I just want to start by giving a heartfelt
thank you to my colleague, Morgan McGarvey, a dear friend whose family
has become close to my family. Our wives have become close.
It just means so much to me to be standing here on the floor of the
House. It is a place where I never thought I would be in a million
years not just because I am a child of an immigrant and a working-class
mom but because I am a gay American.
I knew at 11 years of age that I was gay. I also knew that it was not
something that was accepted by my family or my community or my teachers
or my friends, but it didn't matter. That is who I was.
I also knew that my calling in life was to alleviate suffering, first
as a teacher--I taught middle school for many years--and then as a
State legislator, and now in Congress. That has been the through line
of my life. It is using whatever position of power I have in order to
alleviate suffering in all its forms.
Madam Speaker, I just want to tell you what it is like when you know
at 17 years of age what you are called to do, and you do not see a path
to do it, not only because I had nobody in my family who had ever run
for office, but it was because as a gay American I knew the world had
not changed enough for me to be able to safely run for office.
Even when I decided to run, it terrified my parents. They did not
want me to be so public about being not just gay but having a family, a
wife and children. Nor did they want me to open our lives up to the
world to say: This is what a family can look like and not just survive
but to thrive.
For the first few months when I was elected to be a State senator, my
dad would start almost every single phone conversation with some
version of: Have they vandalized your house yet?
Have they slashed your tires yet?
Are you getting a lot of hatred?
I would say: Dad, if I am getting that, I am not going to tell you
because I don't want you to be worried.
Even today, I have to remind them constantly: Don't read the
comments. Do not read the comments on social media about me because you
will not see me reflected in those comments, and you will feel so
heartbroken that your daughter, who is finally doing what she was
always called to do, is going to be on the receiving end of hate. For
what?
For standing up for marginalized people in my community. Sometimes
that is members of the LGBT community. Sometimes that is the rural poor
in my community who need me to stand up for them. Sometimes that is
people of color who are being discriminated against or just regular
families who can't put food on the table or pay for affordable housing.
I would be a target for doing the work of an elected official, not
because I am doing my job poorly, but simply because of who I am.
Madam Speaker, I will tell you who I am. I am a very proud American
citizen who contributes deeply to her community, her State, and her
Nation.
That will never matter to some people. All they will see is that I am
a gay American and, therefore, I am suspect and not to be trusted.
I have to tell you, Madam Speaker, this is the greatest honor of my
life to be here in Congress. I never thought that I would get here.
It sickens me to my core when I sit in committee hearings or I listen
to discussions on the floor and people say things about me and my
community that are not just rooted in ignorance but often in hatred,
distrust, and fear.
It doesn't have to be this way. It really doesn't.
Madam Speaker, in your communities, regardless of your Congressional
District, you have gay Americans and trans Americans. They may be in
your family, and they don't feel comfortable telling you because they
know how you feel. They see your votes and they hear what you say about
us on C-SPAN.
Morgan just gave voice to something that is at the heart of it for me
and my constituents which is: Where is your love?
Where is your compassion?
I have had the opportunity to talk to two different sets of parents
of trans kids who have come to the Capitol to say: Our own government
is talking about our children as if they are demons and as if they are
monsters. They are dehumanizing our children, and they are blaming us,
the parents, saying that we are terrible people because we love our
children, we support our children, and we want them to get the care
that they need and that they deserve.
They said in both these meetings: We need you to speak for us because
we are not in those rooms and we are not in those Halls when people are
saying not just insensitive things but cruel things and uneducated
things about our lives.
We have people in our LGBT community who are thinking of leaving
their home States right now because they fear for their lives and for
the lives of their children. It is not hyperbole.
Yesterday, I was at a leadership meeting for some young people who
had won a wonderful award. I went to speak to them, and afterwards one
of the moms came up to me. She gave me a hug.
She said: You don't know what it means to my kid to see you here as
an openly gay woman serving in the House of Representatives.
She said: I am fearful for her, not because I don't love her and
support her, because I do, but I fear because of the hatred that she
receives on a daily basis.
She said: Not just from the community, but from elected officials.
As Morgan said, these are children.
Almost every week I have families come to visit me in Vermont. Some
are parents of trans kids, some are parents of gay kids, and some are
just parents of kids who want to be part of something powerful like
elective government.
I can't tell you, Madam Speaker, how proud I am every time they say
to me: I am so glad that I voted for you. I am so glad that you are
sticking up for all of our kids.
They say: That gives me hope for the future that we are going to ride
out this backlash.
What we see right now is what we saw when I was a kid, and instead of
being on the receiving end, instead of it being about trans kids, it
was about gay kids, and we were the bogeyman.
I hear some of our elected officials on TV talk about how they are
protecting families by passing legislation like ``don't say gay.'' This
is absurd because these kids in Gen Z are so far ahead of
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us. What they see are people and not labels.
I think about my own family. If we were not in Vermont, if we were in
Florida or in Texas or somewhere else where people are passing these
ridiculous bills about ``don't say gay,'' my own children would be in
school being ashamed or being made to feel ashamed of their family.
This is about real people. This isn't about some slogan.
Madam Speaker, it shouldn't be about playing to your base so that you
can raise more money or drive people to the polls because you want to
make them fearful of Americans who are just living their lives. That is
all they want. That is all I ever wanted.
It is Pride Month, and we threw a big party in Vermont last week for
pride. One of the young men who helped me organize it told me that the
day before this event his car was completely and totally trashed and
vandalized. It had hateful homophobic messages all over it.
I was so frustrated and sad that this was how we were ushering in
pride. Even more than that, I hated that I could sit with him and say:
I have had the same experience. I had to have my car repainted because
someone decided to scratch ``dyke'' into the side of my car.
So I was grateful that I could sit with him, and I thought: Have we
learned nothing?
Just the other day in Vermont a poet was harassed at a poetry reading
because he is a man of color and he is gay. They basically chased him
out of a poetry reading because somehow his poetry was going to be so
dangerous for the people of that town.
We are talking about ideas.
Why are we policing ideas?
We have seen this before.
So I am here today, Madam Speaker, because I want you to know that
pride is about going through the hard stuff too. It is about not
glossing it over with rainbow flags, parades, drag queen story hours,
and the things that are celebratory--yes, they are--but it is also
about acknowledging that some people are trying to drag us back. They
are trying to erase our experience, our identities, and our families.
I could not be more proud to not just represent my community but also
all of the Vermonters who support me, who elected me, and who said:
Yes, yes, we see the work that you do. We see the compassion that you
bring to your work, and it doesn't matter to us that you are a gay
American. You are the right person for the job.
I need my colleagues here to understand that this is about real
people. It is about real families. It is about promise and possibility.
It is about every single kid believing that they have the right and
opportunity every other kid has. It is about how families feel
regardless of what their family looks like that the government is not
going to come after them and infringe on their personal freedoms.
Pride is a month about freedom, about living your life true to
yourself and to have a heart wide-open to the world and inviting other
people in to celebrate.
We should have enough room in our hearts. We should make enough room
in our hearts. We should be driven by compassion, love, empathy, and
basic human dignity.
That is why I am standing up today.
Madam Speaker, I love Representative Morgan McGarvey, and I thank him
for his leadership.
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Mr. McGARVEY. Madam Speaker, I can't do better than the Congresswoman
from Vermont, Congresswoman Becca Balint, who is not just an
extraordinary person with incredible intellect, with incredible
ability, with one of the biggest hearts I've ever seen, but as you have
heard tonight, she is also so brave and so courageous. Do not let the
little frame fool you. She is who you want in your foxhole.
I think her story shines a spotlight on something that is true in
Vermont, it is true in Kentucky, and it is true across this country;
that despite the incredible steps and strides we have taken and made,
there is still so much left to do.
Congresswoman Balint, I know you have been called to public service.
I know you have alleviated, not only in Vermont, people's suffering.
You are going to do it here, and you are going to do it for every kid
in the country. Thank you also for showing the way.
There are kids in this country tonight who see your speech and your
example and know it is possible for them too, which is good. It is not
good--it is great. It is a great thing because look at what we are
talking about here.
We are talking about kindness and compassion, empathy, caring,
inclusiveness, equality. Equality. When we don't talk about those
things, it is the opposite. It is hatred. It is division. It is
inequality.
I know in my State, in Kentucky, 24 cities have passed a fairness
ordinance. What is a fairness ordinance?
It simply means you can't be discriminated against in your housing,
your employment, or your accommodations. That is the fancy way of
saying you get to live where you want to live. You get to work where
you want to work. You get to eat where you want to eat.
We couldn't pass it on a State-wide level in the Kentucky General
Assembly.
What does that tell people? It says, in fact, they want to allow that
discrimination. Why? Why? Think about the real and practical
implications that has.
I talked about Henry, my intern; so full of promise, so full of life.
He died by suicide on December 16. It was a Friday. His mom called me
as I was sitting in a coffee shop meeting with somebody. I went over to
her house that night and gave her a hug.
I knew Henry before I ever knew his mom. His mom served with me in
the State senate, she was my colleague.
We hugged, and she sobbed because she just lost her son. Not a
statistic. Not a number. Not a trans kid. Her son. Her baby. Her Henry.
Her colleagues all reached out and expressed sympathy and then turned
around and passed a truly awful overreaching and heinous bill that
targets youth in the State of Kentucky.
An interesting person came to testify. One of our former colleagues,
a Republican State rep who just retired and also learned that one of
his grandchildren is trans. He admitted he didn't know how to handle it
at first.
You know how you handle your kids or your grandkids? With love.
He testified that he is worried his kids and his grandchild will have
to leave the State of Kentucky, where he served as a conservative
lawmaker because of the overreaching effects of legislation like what
they passed in Kentucky and like we have talked about passing and have,
in fact, passed on the floor of this House.
If you don't know how to deal with these situations in your own
family, and you decide the best way to deal with them is love, isn't
that the best way to deal with it for every kid and every family in
this country?
Madam Speaker, my colleagues and I have made it very clear tonight
that we will not stand for these extremist attacks against the LGBTQ
community.
We will not let the majority threaten to legislate LGBTQ people out
of existence and let them know that their harmful, extremist bills have
real-life consequences.
We must and we will do everything in our power to support our LGBTQ+
community. We will show understanding over ignorance, kindness over
callousness, and inclusivity over exclusion. We will save lives. We
will work toward that more perfect Union.
Madam Speaker, I yield back the balance of my time.
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