[Congressional Record Volume 159, Number 87 (Tuesday, June 18, 2013)]
[House]
[Pages H3750-H3756]
From the Congressional Record Online through the Government Publishing Office [www.gpo.gov]




                              {time}  2000
                               FATHERHOOD

  The SPEAKER pro tempore. Under the Speaker's announced policy of 
January 3, 2013, the gentlewoman from Missouri (Mrs. Hartzler) is 
recognized for 60 minutes as the designee of the majority leader.
  Mrs. HARTZLER. Mr. Speaker, Father's Day was this past Sunday, and I 
am very thankful that I had an opportunity to spend some time with my 
father, with my sister and her family. Everybody was there. I had an 
opportunity to thank him for the role that he has meant and continues 
to mean in our lives, and to thank him for that. It was also an 
opportunity for my daughter and I to do something special for my 
husband.
  But, you know, Father's Day also presents us with the great 
opportunity to focus on the importance of fathers in this country. The 
presence of a father has such a tremendous impact on the life of each 
and every child and adult in America. A father serves to provide a 
sense of protection, guidance, and above all, love for their child. 
Fathers also push their children to pursue their dreams and to never 
give up.
  I think of my own father, Ted Zellmer, and the profound influence 
that he has had on my life. Not only has he taught me the meaning of 
hard work and dedication, but he has supported me throughout my entire 
life to where I am today, representing the

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good people of Missouri. That's what good fathers do and why they are 
so important. We learn a lot from fathers--whether it's how to drive a 
tractor and shoot a free throw, like my dad showed me, or how to fix an 
engine or play baseball. Dads teach us. They also show us how to live 
by example.
  Children learn the importance of work and dedication to providing for 
the family when they see their dad leave for his job each day. They 
learn the importance of faith when he takes his family to church on 
Sunday. And they learn the value of family when he prioritizes his time 
to eat dinner with them each night, or to coach their Little League 
team.
  We need good fathers now more than ever. Their importance is 
paramount to another discussion taking place in our Nation, and that is 
the value of marriage in America. Along with Father's Day, June will 
also bring an important announcement: the Supreme Court's much-
anticipated rulings on both the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) and 
Proposition 8. These cases have put the national spotlight on this 
issue in a new way, and provide an opportunity for Americans to discuss 
the question: What is marriage?
  It's not complicated. Marriage exists to bring a man and woman 
together as husband and wife, to become the father and mother for any 
children that come from that union. Marriage is based on the biological 
fact that reproduction depends on a man and a woman and the reality 
that children need a mother and a father. Redefining marriage would 
further distance marriage from the needs of children. It would deny as 
a matter of policy the ideal that a child needs a mom and a dad. We 
know that children do best when raised by a mother and a father.
  President Obama is also a strong advocate for the importance of a 
strong male figure in a child's life. With firsthand experience of 
growing up without a father, the President works every day to be a 
great dad for his two daughters. The Obama administration has created 
many new programs under his Fatherhood Initiative Program, including 
under Fatherhood Buzz and Healthy Marriage and Responsible Fatherhood 
Initiative.
  During his speech, President Obama said:

       Too many fathers are missing from too many lives and too 
     many homes, having abandoned their responsibilities, acting 
     like boys instead of men.

  And then he goes on. The President says:

       We know the statistics--that children who grow up without a 
     father are five times more likely to live in poverty and to 
     commit crime, nine times more likely to drop out of schools, 
     and 20 times more likely to end up in prison. They are more 
     likely to have behavioral problems or to run away from home 
     or become teenage parents themselves, and the foundations of 
     our community are weaker because of it.

  Clearly, we all agree on the critical role fathers play in the lives 
of their children, which is why we should continue to affirm marriage 
as the union of a man and a woman in the interest of children. Every 
child deserves a mom and a dad. You cannot say that fathers are 
essential while also making them optional. That's why we're here 
tonight, to make a case for fathers. Too many times in society, they 
are viewed as optional. Hollywood shows often depict them as buffoons. 
We know different, and are here to set the record straight. It's time 
to honor the fathers of America for the vital role they play in not 
only our families, but also the stability and the well-being of our 
Nation. It's time to show the respect that is due them, encourage men 
to be better fathers for their children, and champion the vital role 
they play in marriage.
  I'm joined tonight by several of my colleagues, and I appreciate them 
taking the time to visit about this very, very important topic. I have 
my good friend from Kansas, Tim Huelskamp here, and he certainly is a 
person who knows a lot about being a good father because he certainly 
is one, and I yield to Tim Huelskamp.
  Mr. HUELSKAMP. Thank you, Congresswoman Hartzler. I appreciate you 
leading our efforts and discussion tonight on a very important topic. 
Obviously, as you do mention, it is oftentimes a forgotten topic. I'm 
certain we all have our stories about our dads, and I was really 
blessed and still blessed with a very active and involved father. I 
will just say as a farm kid, probably the most poignant story I do 
recall with my dad was after a hailstorm. You know, being a farm gal 
yourself, the damage a hailstorm does to the family, does to the 
economy, and does to your crops. We were sitting out in the yard, and 
there were 3 or 4 inches of hail all around. And we listened to it 
bounce off the roof of the pickup for 30 minutes, and then it stopped. 
I said, Oh, gosh what's going to happen next? What's dad going to say?
  He put the pickup in gear, and then we drove around in silence for 
another hour, and then we got out and we went back to work. That's the 
kind of message that I learned from my dad--you don't give up. You roll 
with the punches, and you keep doing that.

  But tonight, I don't want to talk just about my father or my 
children, although I would love to do that. My wife and I have not been 
blessed with any of our own biological children. We have been blessed 
with four adopted children. So there are four sets of moms and dads out 
there that have dedicated children that are in our care.
  One thing I do want to speak directly to fathers who are listening 
today, and fathers, I want to challenge you to be a hero for your 
children. I want to challenge you to be responsible, committed husbands 
to the mothers of your children. I challenge you to live out fatherhood 
courageously, but to live this courageous, responsible, heroic role as 
father, it requires marriage: marriage truly understood as the 
exclusive and permanent union between one man and one woman coming 
together to become husband and wife, mother and father to the children.
  I would also like to speak to all of America, as I know my colleague 
has done. It is vital that we encourage fatherhood in the context of 
marriage and uphold policies that reflect the truth, the truth that 
fathers are not optional, but they play a vital role to their families, 
and restoring America must begin on the home front. It begins with 
encouraging and supporting committed, responsible fatherhood in the 
context of marriage.
  We know who the victims of the vicious fatherless cycle are: they are 
our children. It is our children, the children of America, who are left 
to suffer the scars of the abandonment of their absentee fathers. As my 
colleague noted and quoted the President, he was accurate when he said 
we know the statistics, and yet I'll repeat them because they're so 
powerful:

       Children who grow up without a father are four times more 
     likely to live in poverty and to commit crime; nine times 
     more likely to drop out of schools and 20 times more likely 
     to have behavioral problems or run away from home. The 
     foundations of our community are weaker because of 
     fatherlessness.

  Furthermore, absent fathers don't just hurt our children, they wound 
society. It is a fact that the welfare state has to expand when 
marriage and families decline. It has been estimated over $229 billion 
in welfare costs from 1970 to 1996 can be attributed to the breakdown 
of marriage. And specifically, a study in 2008, 1 year alone, 
estimating that divorce and unwed childbearing cost American taxpayers 
over $120 billion a year.

                              {time}  2010

  This was a study of more than 5 or 6 years ago. Where there are 
absentee fathers, it's you, I, your families, our families, our 
communities, our churches, our neighbors, our cities, and the 
government, we're all forced to step in and try to pick up the broken 
pieces of these shattered marriages.
  This is not fair to mothers and children. Wives deserve committed 
husbands. Children deserve protective, responsible fathers.
  The facts speak for themselves. But one story I will note, and then 
I'll close quickly, is it was not far from here a few weeks ago I was 
crossing a crowded street here in Washington, D.C., and there was a 
line of kids. I think they were with a babysitter. And there was about 
a 2-year-old young boy, and he looked at his babysitter as he's 
crossing the street. She's dragging him across. And he asked again, I 
could hear him. He says, ``Who is my daddy? Who is my daddy?'' And that 
babysitter didn't have an answer. ``Shhh. Don't worry about that.'' He 
kept asking the question, ``Who is my daddy?''
  We should have an answer. We should have an answer for that little 
boy. We

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should have an answer because we should know. We should expect, we 
should demand, we should promote, we should push fathers, encourage 
them, demand of them to hold up their responsibilities, because there 
is a disease in America, and it's the disease of fatherlessness.
  We must overcome the myths in society that see no difference in 
whether a mom or a dad is involved in a child's life, because it is, 
there is no doubt. You can look at tons and tons of social science data 
over and over. It's very clear.
  But for that 2-year-old boy, that 3-year-old boy, we have to have an 
answer who is his daddy. And the daddy is not the government. He has a 
daddy. He should be involved. Our policies should reflect that goal, 
because every child deserves both a mom and a dad.
  And I look forward, hopefully, as we continue to press forward and 
solve these problems, we promote marriage and promote fatherhood.
  I appreciate your leadership tonight, Vicky, for your efforts here.
  Mrs. HARTZLER. Thank you so much, Tim. I think you spoke so 
eloquently to the importance of fathers and the cost that we have, as a 
society, when fathers are not present and why it's important to have a 
policy that promotes the father being there for their children.
  And now I'd like to yield to the gentleman from Georgia and hear what 
he has to say about the importance of fathers. Thank you, Phil Gingrey.
  Mr. GINGREY of Georgia. Mr. Speaker, I appreciate so much the 
gentlelady from Missouri (Mrs. Hartzler) for leading this time on 
fatherhood. And what a perfect time to do it this evening. We all just 
came back from our districts and celebrated Father's Day or 
Grandfather's Day.
  And of course we're also awaiting, some time soon, before the end of 
June, a decision, a momentous decision from the Supreme Court in regard 
to two particular decisions: the one ballot initiative from California, 
Proposition 8, where the people of California fairly convincingly 
decided what is a definition of traditional marriage; and, of course, 
the other thing is the Defense of Marriage Act passed right here on 
this floor and signed into law by President Clinton back in 1996.
  So this is timely, and I commend the gentlewoman from Missouri for 
bringing it forward and giving us an opportunity to join with our 
colleagues and talk about something as important as this, that is, the 
definition of fatherhood and how important a father is to a child.
  But maybe even more important than that, a mother and a father. We 
don't always have the ideal situation, but that's certainly no reason 
to throw up our hands and say let's forget about our faith and family 
and traditional values and what's best, what is the best circumstance 
for a child.
  My colleagues, I think a lot about my own children. Of course they're 
adults now, and among them, they have 13 grandchildren--our 
grandchildren, their children. And at least one of my son-in-laws had 
no father present when he was growing up. And that father didn't come 
to his wedding. That father was not there for the birth of any of his 
four children. That father just basically denies his existence.
  And I watch that particular son-in-law, and my son and my other son-
in-laws, but particularly him, because of the experience that he went 
through as a child, how much he loves his children, how kind and caring 
and loving he is and how important he is in their lives.
  And I realize today that the ``Father Knows Best'' and that 
traditional view that we all had back in the old days of television is 
different. It's changed, and I do understand that.
  Of my three daughters and one daughter-in-law, they all work. They 
all work, some of them full-time, some of them part-time. But they're 
still there as moms. And when they come home and take over that 
responsibility, they need a shared partner, and that partner is that 
partner for life. And I'm talking about, of course, the father.
  And so I really appreciate the opportunity to be with my colleagues 
tonight and just say that, you know, maybe part of the problem is we 
need to go back into the schools at a very early age, maybe at the 
grade school level, and have a class for the young girls and have a 
class for the young boys and say, you know, this is what's important. 
This is what a father does that is maybe a little different, maybe a 
little bit better than the talents that a mom has in a certain area; 
and the same thing for the young girls, that, you know, this is what a 
mom does and this is what is important from the standpoint of that 
union which we call marriage, and we have called it that since the 
beginning of this country and long before the beginning of this 
country.
  So as I close and yield back to the gentlelady and thank her for 
giving me some time, I stand strongly for the Defense of Marriage Act 
and traditional marriage as we know it, and don't take that right away 
from our States.
  But this is a wonderful opportunity to say, young men, you've got a 
great responsibility. You're not a father unless you prove it.
  Mrs. HARTZLER. Thank you so much, Phil. That's well spoken from a 
proud grandfather as well as a father, and certainly brought up the 
importance of fatherhood as well as these decisions that are coming up 
from the Supreme Court.
  You know, the people have spoken on that. The people of California 
spoke two times, and they said, This is what we think is wise public 
policy for the families and the citizens of California. And the people 
spoke on the Defense of Marriage Act through their elected 
representatives here in Congress, a huge vote, bipartisan. And 
President Clinton signed the bill. The people have spoken on this.
  And what we don't want is to have the Supreme Court impose their view 
or be activists and impose their view of what marriage should be on the 
citizens who have spoken, so it's going to be interesting to see how 
they rule.
  But certainly, I agree with you, Phil, that it's very important that 
the people have spoken and that we uphold marriage.
  Next we have a Representative from Oklahoma, a friend of mine, James 
Lankford, who not only is a great dad and father, but has worked with 
teenagers for many years and, I'm sure, has seen the importance of 
fatherhood as it relates to young people.
  So go ahead, James Lankford.
  Mr. LANKFORD. I thank the gentlelady for hosting this time.
  There's a lot of things I've talked about in the well of this House. 
I've talked about budget. I've talked about a growing economy, about 
jobs. I've talked about transportation. I've talked about the 
relationship of the individual citizen and their government and how 
that relationship works--or sometimes it doesn't work lately.
  But this is a time just to be able to pause for a moment and not talk 
about necessarily some new government law or some new regulation, but 
to celebrate, for just a moment, dads, with Father's Day this past 
weekend, and to be able to hesitate again and to be able to say thanks 
to my own dad, but to also talk about the fact that it is the love of 
our life for men to be able to enjoy their children, just like it is 
for ladies to be able to enjoy their children, as well, as a mom.
  There is something very unique--and I believe firmly that every child 
needs a mom and needs a dad. They come at parenting from two different 
directions and they, together, make such a dramatic difference in the 
life of a child, to have a mom and to have a dad.
  It's interesting to me that the last verse in the Old Testament, in 
that verse from Malachi 4:6 in that minor prophet book, it ends that 
Old Testament by saying the role of the prophet will be to turn the 
hearts of the children to their fathers and to turn the hearts of their 
fathers to the children, to be able to see that restoration.

                              {time}  2020

  In that time period, there was a collapse for a moment in the 
families, and they suffered as a nation and saw that. We see that today 
in our own families. Fifteen million children live life without a 
father--15 million. In 1960, there were only 11 percent of the homes 
that didn't have a father. Today, it's over one-third of the homes that 
don't have a father. As we watch all the consequences that occur with 
that in our own economy, in our own family, and in our own culture, 
it's just the separation that happens.
  We see a greater emphasis right now with trying to figure out what to 
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schools as parents seem to be disconnected from their children and 
teachers struggle in the community, and things have changed in our 
schools with an absence of fathers.
  As we've seen the families collapse, we've seen an increase in 
poverty. Some colleagues were here earlier speaking about hunger in 
America, which is rampant and is a huge issue for us as a nation. They 
mentioned that in the 1970s we had a very low hunger rate in America. 
It's interesting for us to come here now and talk about fathers and how 
that has changed, and from that point in 1970 when we had a very low 
hunger rate in America, we look at the difference now with a very high 
hunger rate in America and also a very low presence of fathers in the 
lives of their children. We've seen something different happen in 
families as fathers disconnect from their children and they no longer 
see a role to be able to be a provider and they've required government 
to go be the provider for children when it was never designed to be 
that way. And that's not where it is best.
  Children have a higher risk of poverty. Children have a lower 
graduation rate from high school and have a lower entry rate into 
college. There is not a safe environment for children when there's an 
absence of a dad and a mom. It's different for them as they grow up and 
as they process through things without the stability that can come to a 
child with the presence of a mom and of a dad.
  So what do we do about it is the challenge. Well, quite frankly, 
there are issues in our marriage laws right now as a nation that we 
have where there are penalties to be married in our tax law. There are 
penalties even in our disability benefits as we try and reach in and 
help families as they're disabled, but yet if they're married, it's a 
lower rate. So we look at that, and we ask the question: Why would we 
punish a family for being married because one of the individuals there 
is disabled? That doesn't make sense for us.
  So we need to look at our policies that we have and be able to 
encourage rather than discourage marriage. Because we know when that 
happens--it's the reason that the Federal Government is involved at all 
in the marriage relationship is because we know what happens in the 
lives of children when a man and a woman are committed to each other 
for life. That commitment, the reason the government is connected to 
that is because of what happens in the lives of children and how it 
benefits people in the days ahead. So we need to look at the marriage 
penalty that's occurring in our tax law and our disability rules and 
such.
  But, quite frankly, most of the issues that deal with fatherhood and 
from the absence of fathers won't happen because of a change in Federal 
law. It will happen when families turn and mentor young couples and 
they get personally involved in the lives of young families. Some 
individuals have never seen a functioning man and a woman married and 
committed to each other for life. They've never seen that in their 
community, and they haven't experienced that in their own family. It's 
so important for older couples to mentor young couples and to pass on 
the wisdom that they have gained.
  It is, quite frankly, very important at the marriage altar for two 
individuals to truly commit to each other for life. That brings 
stability not only to those two individuals, but it also brings 
stability to the children where they grow up in a home where there's 
some emotional security and safety and not the constant fear of 
separation and of loss of either the mom or the dad. So for individuals 
to be committed to each other for life makes a big difference in that.
  So what can happen? I talked about the Federal policies, but it's 
really individuals, individuals mentoring other individuals, and it's 
two individuals when they approach the marriage altar knowing that 
we're going to commit to each other and we're going to work through the 
problems that we have because that's what's best for our Nation, and 
that's what's best for the children that are coming up to provide them 
that stable home where they can grow up.
  Do we always get it perfect? No. But we know economically and we know 
emotionally that the strongest homes and what's best for our children 
is for a mom and a dad. And I want to honor dads that do commit to walk 
through the hard, difficult days and to say to them, Keep going. Don't 
give up, dads. And as you face through hard times, your children need 
you.

  The single most difficult part of my job is getting on an airplane on 
Monday mornings and flying away from my two daughters and my wife. No 
other moment of my week is harder than that one, because I know the 
importance of being a dad to my daughters, and they need me.
  I encourage dads today to live out the commitment that you have made 
to your wife and the commitment that you've made to your children.
  Mrs. HARTZLER. Great, great words. Thank you, James. What a word of 
encouragement, how to commit and to keep on going and to be good dads 
and the need to strengthen marriage in this country. So thank you for 
those very, very excellent comments.
  Now I would like to call on another colleague from Oklahoma, a 
freshman this year who has hit the ground running, and we are really 
glad he is here. Jim Bridenstine, I would like to yield to you and hear 
what you would like to share about the importance of fathers.
  Mr. BRIDENSTINE. I appreciate that. It is an honor to be here, and 
thank you for inviting me to participate in this.
  I have been certainly accused of maybe being critical of the 
President from time to time, as many of us Republicans are sometimes, 
but I'd like to share a few points where we agree, the President and I. 
I've got a number of quotes here, and I think these quotes cross party 
lines and certainly indicate how important fathers are in the lives of 
their children.
  Here is a quote from our President, Barack Obama:

       We need fathers to realize that responsibility doesn't end 
     at conception. We need them to realize that what makes you a 
     man is not the ability to have a child; it's the courage to 
     raise one.

  Here is another quote from our President:

       I wish I had a father who was around and involved.

  That's a profound statement, and certainly it shows a great deal of 
courage by our President to say that.
  I remember when I was a young child in the Cub Scouts, the Pinewood 
Derby came around every year. My father, my brother, and I would spend 
a great deal of time weighing our little Pinewood Derby car to make 
sure that it weighed precisely 5 ounces. We would spend all night 
graphiting the wheels because we wanted our little Pinewood Derby car 
to be the absolute fastest car that we could possibly make it. Whether 
we won or lost, it didn't matter. We were going to make this little car 
as fast as we could possibly make it.
  I also remember not too long ago my 7-year-old, who was 6, wanted to 
participate in the Pinewood Derby in the Cub Scouts himself. And 
because of my relationship that I had with my father and the time that 
we spent involved in that project, it was a desire of my heart to be 
involved in his Pinewood Derby to the same extent. And I'm proud to say 
that when I was a child, we won the Pinewood Derby; and I'm proud to 
say that as Walker's dad, together we won the Pinewood Derby when he 
was 6 years old. These are the things that I think are critically 
important in the life of a child.
  Some other quotes from our President: Obama has said that his hardest 
but the most rewarding job is being a father. I think that is 
absolutely true, as well.
  I want to quote some statistics here:
  Currently there are 24 million children in America living in a home 
without their biological father.
  The World Family Map report by Child Trends found that even when 
controlling for income, children who live with both parents have better 
educational outcomes than children living with one or no parents. 
Fathers play an important role in teaching children life lessons and 
preparing them to succeed in school and in life.
  Some other quotes:
  According to the National Fatherhood Initiative, a father's 
involvement in education of his children is associated with a higher 
probability of A's for their children.
  Interestingly, I remember when I was in fourth grade, there was a 
competition called Math Olympiads. My dad

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was a mathematician, and he came from a family of mathematicians. And 
my dad would spend hours with me working on these math problems that 
were really college-level math problems. We would go over and over 
these problems again and again. I remember in fourth grade, when it 
came time to do Math Olympiads, there were just five problems, and if 
you could get one or two of them right, it was really tremendous for a 
fourth grader. I remember at the end of the first Math Olympiad, I had 
four out of five correct. And it wasn't because I was smart, and it 
wasn't because I was brilliant. It had nothing to do with that at all--
in fact, quite the contrary. But what it had to do with was the fact 
that I had a dad who was so engaged, so involved, and so interested in 
making sure not that I would get an A in the class--quite frankly, that 
was really not relevant to him. What he cared about was whether I 
learned the material.

                              {time}  2030

  I remember taking tests in sixth grade. I would do the math problems 
entirely different than how the teacher taught and the teacher would 
count it wrong. My dad would go to the school and he would say, you 
know, he may have done it differently than you taught him, but he did 
it the way we taught at home because he's preparing for higher math in 
a different year.
  Having a dad involved in your education that way is something that 
was tremendously important to me as I was growing up. And certainly, 
now that I am a father myself and I have a child in first, now soon to 
be second grade--and of course other children on the way that are 
entering kindergarten and a 1-year old at home, these are areas where 
it's important for me.
  There is a generational trend. When a child has that impact from 
their father, certainly it's an impact on them that they want to have 
on their own children. So that's why it is so important for fathers to 
be involved in the lives of their children. That's my personal 
experience.
  Children with involved fathers are more likely to do well in school. 
They have a better sense of well-being, they have fewer behavioral 
problems. When fathers are actively involved in the upbringing of their 
children, their children demonstrate greater self control and a greater 
ability to take initiative.
  Along with Father's Day, this June will also bring an important 
announcement--the Supreme Court's much-anticipated rulings on both the 
Defense of Marriage Act and Proposition 8. These cases have put the 
national spotlight on this issue in a new way and provide an 
opportunity for Americans to discuss the question: What is marriage?
  Marriage exists to bring a man and a woman together as husband and 
wife, to be a father and a mother to children, and the institution of 
marriage is intended for life. This is very important when it comes to 
the rearing of children.
  A few more statistics. In 2012, about one-third of all children lived 
in families without their biological father present. According to some 
estimates, as many as 50 percent of children who are currently under 
age 18 will spend or have spent a significant portion of their 
childhood in a home without their biological father.
  Research indicates that children raised in single-parent families are 
more likely than children raised in two-parent families, with both 
biological parents, to do poorly in school, have emotional and 
behavioral problems, become teenage parents, and have poverty-level 
incomes.
  In 2011, the poverty rate for children living in homes without a 
father was 48 percent, compared with 11 percent for children living 
with married-couple families. Single-parent families are more likely to 
be poor than two-parent families, especially if the lone parent is the 
mother. That's why it's so important for fathers, and that's why I 
commend the President when he talks about the importance of fathers.
  Here's a final quote from our President:

       As fathers, we need to be involved in our children's lives 
     not just when it's convenient or easy, and not just when 
     they're doing well, but when it's difficult and thankless, 
     and they're struggling. That is when they need us most.

  With that, I thank the gentlelady from Missouri.
  Mrs. HARTZLER. Thank you so much, Jim. I really enjoyed hearing the 
stories about your father and the role that he played. You know, I 
think every child in that derby was a winner who had a father who 
helped make their little pine box with them. It really is important and 
makes a huge difference. So thanks for sharing that.
  Now I'd like to yield my time to Congressman Trent Franks from 
Arizona, who is certainly a champion for so many of these issues that 
are so important to us today, and to fathers and families.
  Mr. FRANKS of Arizona. Well, I just thank the gentlelady, Mr. 
Speaker, because she has demonstrated such a wonderful presence in this 
body. She has been a gift to all of us. I know that each person who has 
preceded me at this platform is grateful for Congresswoman Vicky 
Hartzler. I wish there were about another 200 like her and I might just 
go home. But I really appreciate her so much.
  Mr. Speaker, it's been said that a father is a man who expects his 
children to be as good as he meant to be. I have yet to meet a father 
who doesn't want to convey his own mistakes to his children. He wants 
his children to learn from his mistakes, to give his children the best 
possible start in life, serving as a springboard from which to face the 
day-to-day challenges that ultimately come. But I really don't think 
that's such a comprehensive definition.
  Those of us who are privileged to be in a Christian family believe 
that there is a loftier image of fatherhood, that there is One after 
whom we model our inevitably flawed attempts to raise our children with 
love and wisdom, a perfect father who gives us ``every good and perfect 
gift,'' who is a father to the fatherless and a help in times of need 
to the widow and the oppressed. And it is only in having children 
sometimes that we begin to understand just a little glimpse of how our 
heavenly Father feels about the rest of us.

  To most women, their father was their first love. To most men, their 
father was their first larger-than-life idol. The role a father plays 
in the life of his children simply cannot be overstated. That fact, Mr. 
Speaker, that knowledge that little eyes are watching every move we 
make, often emulating what they see for good or bad, no matter what we 
do, we will never feel quite fully equipped to do justice to the sacred 
responsibility to which God has entrusted us.
  There is a famous saying that the greatest gift a father can give his 
children is to love their mother. And the point of that quote of course 
is that a healthy, intact home gives a child the best possible chance 
at pursuing and achieving their dreams.
  But for all its difficulties, what a sweet and blessed honor it is to 
be entrusted with the task of raising these little human images of 
unconditional love. I've said it before, Mr. Speaker, and I believe 
with every passing day that every baby that is born comes with a 
message from God that He has not yet despaired of mankind on Earth. Yet 
I look around at the state of the American family, Mr. Speaker, that 
bedrock institution that is responsible more than any other factor for 
inculcating the truth into the hearts and minds of each new generation, 
and I believe that it is facing a grave and profound challenge in 
America.
  A mentor and a friend of mine, Gary Bauer, recently wrote an article 
on this very subject. He was highlighting the state of affairs in which 
so many Americans find themselves without the firm, guiding, loving 
hand of a father.
  Indeed, Mr. Speaker, 40 percent of children are now born to unmarried 
parents, including a majority of children born to women 30 years old or 
younger. A recent study in Richmond, Virginia, found that 60 percent of 
families in the city have just one parent--usually the mother--at home. 
Among black residents, it's 86 percent of homes that are single 
parents.
  A related Pew study estimated that women, when they are the prime 
breadwinners--and they are in 40 percent of American households--that, 
unfortunately, the majority of these households are led by a single 
mother who averages just $23,000 in annual income, whereas intact 
families average about $80,000 a year in income, by comparison.
  Eighty-five percent of all young men--or even, for that matter, 
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aged men--in prison came from a family that never had a functional 
father figure in their midst--85 percent.
  Mr. Speaker, it is an understatement to suggest to you that children 
are so desperately in need of both a mother and a father. And I know no 
better way to really illustrate that than just to try to tell the story 
of three fathers.
  The first story I will tell is of one father named Earl Carr. He was 
my grandfather. Earl Carr was a coal miner. When he was just in his 
mid-twenties, a terrible cave-in crushed his friends, killed most of 
them, and broke his back. So as a child, I remember growing up when my 
grandfather could carry a coal bucket for maybe 40 or 50 feet, but then 
he would have to sit down. But he never abandoned his family, and he 
was always there in every way that he could be.
  Just to illustrate to you how sometimes a grandfather can have a big 
impact on a grandson, more than 45 years has passed--and I hope I can 
remember it--but he used to be very fond of the ``Coal Miner's Ode,'' 
and it goes something like this:

     Come and listen, you fellers, so young and so fine, and seek 
           not your fortune in the dark dreary mine. It will form 
           as a habit and seep in your soul 'til the stream of 
           your blood runs as black as the coal.
     Because it's dark as a dungeon, damp as the dew where the 
           danger is double and the pleasures are few.
     Where the rain never falls and the sun never shines, it's 
           dark as a dungeon way down in the mines. And I hope 
           when I'm gone and the ages shall roll, my body will 
           blacken and turn into coal. And I will look from the 
           door of my heavenly home and I'll pity the miner 
           digging my bones. Because it's dark as a dungeon, damp 
           as the dew, where the danger is double and the 
           pleasures are few,
     where the rain never falls and the sun never shines, it's 
           dark as a dungeon way down in the mines.

                              {time}  2040

  I don't remember the last time I said that, Mr. Speaker, but I do 
know that it was over 40 years ago that I learned it, and a grandfather 
does have a lasting impact on our lives.
  So now I will tell you another story of another father, and he's my 
father--a man named Taylor Franks. I won't go into--because I don't 
remember--how he was there for me when I was a baby and had some 
congenital defects and probably wouldn't have had the opportunity to be 
standing in this well had it not been for a faithful father, but I'll 
tell you just one story.
  Years ago in the little town when I was growing up, I came away from 
the playground one day when I was about 5 or 6 years old, maybe 6 years 
old. And I came through an alley, and you know how it always is. There 
is sometimes a bunch of guys that want to demonstrate their macho 
capability. I walked past the fence and one of them yelled something at 
me and there was a rock fight that ensued. Now, they were behind the 
fence and there were several of them. I was out there alone and I was 
losing this battle very demonstrably. I would pick up one rock and 
throw it back because I didn't want to be discomforted by this band of 
ruffians, you understand. But I was losing, and I thought, Boy, what am 
I going to do? I am going to have to run, it looks like. And just at 
the moment when I was probably in the peak of my panic, all of a sudden 
the rocks stopped, everything was still, and I could see them peaking 
over the fence at me. I noticed a little carefully. It seemed like they 
were looking at something behind me. I turned and it was Taylor Franks. 
He said, How about me evening up the sides here just a little bit? He 
evened up the sides many, many times.
  He's 87 years old now. But I'll tell you, if the communists ever come 
to this country to take us over, they better go around that old 
gentleman's house because they'll get more than they bargained for. 
This is a man that loves his country, loves his God, and loves his 
family. I have no words to express my gratitude to him.
  So I will tell you about another father, who almost didn't think he 
was going to be one. But he calls his little boy ``little feller,'' 
because that's what his daddy called him. And his name is Joshua Lane, 
and he's my boy. He's got a sister, a twin sister. She's 5 minutes 
younger. Of course he takes care of her. But I can say to you that 
there is no greater gift on this Earth than these children.
  Somehow, I guess, the point of all this, Mr. Speaker, is just to 
remind all of us that are fathers what they meant to us and what we 
mean to our children. Sometimes I have to watch mine grow up at a 
distance, but they know their daddy loves them and they know their 
daddy is here so that we can make a better future for them.
  I guess my challenge to the fathers of this country is to be reminded 
that your children grow up so quickly and your impact on them will be 
profound beyond any words that I could ever articulate. They say that 
great societies finally come when old men plant trees under whose shade 
they will never sit. I believe that to be true, that our greatest jobs 
as fathers is to make sure that our children have the inculcated truths 
that will help them find their way home and through the great storms of 
life. We should always remind ourselves that they are, indeed, the 
living messages that we send to a time we will never see ourselves.
  I hope that somehow that fathers of this country will recognize the 
gift that they've been given and they will recognize the impact that 
they will have, and that the rest of society will recognize that if we 
displace fathers in our country, we will bankrupt us all trying to 
replace them.
  With that, Mr. Speaker and Congresswoman Hartzler, I yield back.
  Mrs. HARTZLER. Thank you so much, Representative Franks. I couldn't 
say it any better I think. Thank you.
  The heritage that he has given his children and that his father gave 
him and his grandfather gave him, that's what it's about is being able 
to pass on that heritage to your children. That's why we have a policy 
in our country that encourages fathers to be there for their children, 
so that every child has a chance to have a mother and a father.
  I am glad to be joined today by a gentleman from California, Doug 
LaMalfa.
  Thank you for coming tonight. I look forward to hearing what you have 
to share on this very important topic.
  Mr. LaMALFA Mr. Speaker, I thank my colleague, Mrs. Hartzler, for 
holding this time here tonight for us.
  Let's talk about the importance of fatherhood and what all that 
means. I really appreciate the words of my colleague from Arizona who 
just spoke and his eloquent way of doing that.
  We are in a nation here that really cries out for the type of values 
that are represented by what is called the nuclear family--kids these 
days, with so many temptations and so many things out there that will 
pull them in all different directions. They need a mom and they need a 
dad.
  We know statistically, just talking numbers, that the chances of 
success for children to grow up and be successful in their own lives, 
not in poverty, not in abusive situations, the percentages are so much 
higher when there's a loving mom and a dad in their lives.
  We have very important tasks, very important jobs here in this place. 
Mr. Speaker, when we make policy here, we always need to make it in 
such a way that supports the family, that strengthens the family and 
doesn't weaken it or in some fashion even use the State, use the 
government, as usurping the role of the parent or of a dad like we've 
seen so much with maybe the start of the great society--well-
intentioned things that have gone on to, in many ways, replace the 
father in people's lives. There needs to be that accountability to come 
back and bring that unit together.
  Thinking of my own dad--we lost him almost 5 years ago now--he was 
always a strong and pretty quiet leader, but he could just give you 
``the look'' pretty much and set you back on track. He had to spend a 
lot of hours out on the farm. We didn't always get to see him all the 
time when it was busy in the springtime with planting or with harvest, 
but we always knew, my sisters and I, that he was there for us. He 
didn't get to every ball game, but we always knew. We never had to 
question his dedication and commitment to us and to our mother, because 
moms are in it, too. We know that certainly because, typically, mostly 
the caregiver for kids a lot of times, she needs that support, too, 
that comes from that committed family unit.
  So we have to make policy, we have to make things that support that 
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this place. I'm so disappointed with the direction our country has gone 
the last 40 to 50 years that has broken that apart.
  I have an obligation to my wife and my four kids. One of the most 
difficult things in contemplating what goes on with this role of 
service that I've been blessed with by the voters in my district is the 
time away from home. Being from the west coast, it's a heck of a 
commitment. With a 5-hour plane ride each way and all that, you don't 
just get to pop in like when I was in the State legislature in 
Sacramento and you get home most nights.
  That's the kind of thing that keeps me worrying sometimes, worrying a 
little bit: Am I doing right by my kids? We do this here--I think 
anyone that runs for office--ostensibly with the idea that we're trying 
to help the next generation and preserve the country and preserve our 
freedoms. But there's a sacrifice in this job. It kind of all comes 
back to perspective.
  Father's Day, the other day, I got to spend home with the family. All 
my kids either got me a little something or made a little card. Very, 
very touching things said in those cards reminded me that, yeah, we are 
here trying to do something for them, preserve their rights, their 
opportunities, their liberties, and that they understand, even though I 
don't always get to be home, that it is for them.

                              {time}  2050

  So that makes me feel good about doing this--about taking on the huge 
issues here, the long hours, the sometimes fruitless battles, and 
people looking at us from the outside with our, maybe, 10 percent 
approval rating, wondering, What the heck are you doing back there in 
Washington, D.C.? We all know we're here for a good reason.
  We have an obligation as dads to be there for our wives and for our 
kids, which is nothing new, but it's the dedication. They need to know 
that we're there for them, that we're fighting for something, whether 
it's our more day-to-day jobs--if you're a butcher or a baker or a 
candlestick maker--or if you're back here getting to be part of the 
U.S. Congress.
  The importance of a dad to a son can't be overstated. You need a man 
in the life to guide your son to the right path, to be that strong 
voice, to keep your son in the position, first of all, of respecting 
his mother, of respecting his sisters, of respecting women--of what 
that role is supposed to be. They need that, and a lot of them have 
lost out on that. It's sad. We see the tragedy. Some of these kids are 
walking the streets, and they grow up to be in gangs and so much 
because they didn't have that.
  A dad has a very strong role with his daughters--to ensure that they 
know they have value, that they aren't something to be out there to be 
traded, as so often happens when they don't have that fatherly voice 
saying, You have value, and you have self-respect--that is so key to 
you. It keeps so many times young girls out of trouble and on that good 
path.
  You can't overstate that role of a father on both sons and daughters 
and, of course, that very strong support that's needed for your wife, 
who has to watch the home fires when we're off doing things like this. 
She needs that.
  So what I'm saying to the men who are already fathers or who are 
would-be fathers is, you've got a very important task, extremely, the 
most important task--to be that leader of your household. You need to 
stick with them through thick and thin.
  And men, be men. Don't be something else. Grow up. You need to cast 
off childish things when you've made that commitment to a woman and to 
fatherhood, because they're watching you. Your neighborhood is watching 
you. It's the most important thing you'll ever do.
  So, Mr. Speaker, I conclude tonight with the thought that, for there 
to be one Nation under God, men have a very key role in that. That's 
being that father, and that's holding the family together. No matter 
what might come and affect it, no matter what legislation or court 
decision might try to affect or break that family union or make 
confusing decisions for our children, we have that role, and we can be 
that guide for their whole lives. It is rewarding for all of us.
  With that, I appreciate the time, and I appreciate the gentlelady 
from Missouri (Mrs. Hartzler) for leading this discussion here tonight.
  Mrs. HARTZLER. I thank the gentleman. That was very, very well said, 
and I appreciate your encouraging the men to be leaders of their 
households and to make a difference for their children--the next 
generation.
  I appreciate all of my colleagues who have come tonight so that we 
could talk about the importance of the fathers and how important it is 
to have marriage strong in our country.
  Every child deserves a mom and a dad. You cannot say that fathers are 
essential while also making them optional. The presence of a father has 
such a tremendous impact on the lives of each and every child and on 
every adult in America. Fathers not only represent the success of our 
children but also the success of our Nation.
  As we get closer to the Supreme Court's ruling concerning the Defense 
of Marriage Act, it is crucial that we weigh the entirety of the impact 
such a decision will have on families. My colleague from Oklahoma 
earlier cited the President in this quote when he stressed the 
importance of fathers. I think it's very, very good, and I want to 
repeat it.
  President Obama said:

       As fathers, we need to be involved in our children's lives 
     not just when it's convenient or easy and not just when 
     they're doing well--but when it's difficult and thankless, 
     and they're struggling. That is when they need us most.

  Every single child in this country deserves the opportunity to have a 
mother and a father. That is why we must uphold marriage. Not only must 
we represent the future of our children but also the future of our 
Nation.
  Mr. Speaker, I yield back the balance of my time.

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