[Congressional Record Volume 153, Number 96 (Thursday, June 14, 2007)]
[Senate]
[Pages S7719-S7720]
From the Congressional Record Online through the Government Publishing Office [www.gpo.gov]
FATHER'S DAY
Mr. BYRD. Mr. President, the Bible admonishes us to ``honor thy
father and thy mother.'' Courtesy insists that ladies go first. Last
month, the Nation honored mothers with Mother's Day. The ladies were
treated to cards, flowers, phone calls, brunches, gifts, and sometimes
precious handmade crafts from the preschool set. Retailers urged more
extravagant manifestations of our love for our wives and mothers with a
dazzling array of usually heart-shaped diamond jewelry, all of which is
certainly deserved, even if not always affordable.
This Sunday, June 17, the fathers get their due. Lumpy clay bowls,
aftershave lotion and cologne, odd pieces of sports paraphernalia and,
of course, neckties in remarkable fashion colors constitute the classic
Father's Day gift for the man who has everything. There does not seem
to be quite the same level of extravagance in the gift suggestions by
merchants, however, perhaps because men do not wear as much jewelry,
and golf clubs do not lend themselves to heart shapes. For that I
suppose we can all be grateful. Still, I am sure that most American
fathers will enjoy being the center of the family's attention on
Sunday. Fathers will enjoy their brunch. Fathers will enjoy a respite
from lawn care and other chores. They might even indulge in an
afternoon nap, a rare luxury--a rare luxury--for most family men.
Fathers deserve their day in the limelight. Good fathers are very
busy men, and their contributions to the family merit recognition, just
as much as their equally busy wives do. Good fathers work hard--they
do--they work hard to provide for their families, but they also invest
a lot of time and energy into the home. They often fulfill the
stereotypical ``dad role''--they keep the house and the yard in good
repair, even if it means tackling mechanical or construction activities
for which they have little training. They spend countless hours
coaching neighborhood sports teams so that their sons and daughters
learn the values of teamwork, leadership, and good sportsmanship. They
help with the homework and with assorted school projects, patiently
helping to build foaming volcanoes or seaside dioramas. They teach
children to set a fishing rod, paddle a canoe, ride a bicycle, or build
a dog house. They urge their children to try new things to push
themselves harder, to struggle, to win graciously, and to lose with
honor. Good fathers want great things for their children. Good fathers
help their children to achieve by letting them know that they believe
in them. That is a lot to accomplish in a few precious hours between
getting home from work and getting to bed each night.
The great man who raised me, the greatest man I ever knew, was my old
coal miner dad. I always called him my dad. My adoptive father was just
such a good man. He walked to work in the coal mines every day, and he
walked home at night. Tired he was, covered with coal dust. Tired as he
always was, he always greeted me with a smile, a quick smile. And
sometimes he had a cake, a cupcake in his lunch box, and he always
saved the cake for me.
He took pride in my school work. Even though I wanted to go into the
mines like him, he always told me not to do it, but to do well in
school instead. He did not want me in the mines, in those dangerous
days of long ago. He wanted better for me than he had. And he put his
energy into urging me to do better. His influence on me has been a
resource for my whole life. He is the greatest man I ever knew. I have
met with Presidents, kings, and princes. He is the greatest man I ever
knew.
I was blessed with a good father. I hope that everyone's father is as
special to each of you. Fatherhood is a great gift. Fathers gain new
responsibilities, but also gain the joys of having children. For
children, to have a great father, whether he is one's biological father
or one's adoptive father
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or just a father figure who influences one's youth, is a very special
thing indeed.
It is certainly possible for a child to grow into a talented,
accomplished, and good adult without the influence of a father figure,
but good fathers and good mothers give their children an advantage.
They give their children the security of knowing always that they are
loved and that someone is rooting for them, someone is looking out for
them. In that security, a child can find the confidence to try and to
fail, and to try and to fail, and to try and to fail, and to try again,
and to try and to fail again. It is a great and lasting gift that our
fathers give to each of us, one that certainly deserves one day of
recognition every year.
So, Mr. President, I close with a short poem by Holly Dunn called
``Daddy's Hands'' and a salute to fathers everywhere:
I remember daddy's hands folded silently in prayer.
And reachin' out to hold me, when I had a nightmare.
You could read quite a story in the callous' and lines.
Years of work and worry had left their mark behind.
I remember daddy's hands, how they held my mama tight
And patted my back for something done right.
There are things that I'd forgotten that I loved about the
man
But I'll always remember the love in daddy's hands.
Daddy's hands were soft and kind when I was cryin'
Daddy's hands were hard as steel when I'd done wrong.
Daddy's hands weren't always gentle but I've come to
understand
There was always love in daddy's hands.
I remember daddy's hands workin' 'til they bled
Sacrificed unselfishly just to keep us all fed.
If I could do things over, I'd live my life again
And never take for granted the love--
The sweet love----
in daddy's hands.
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