[Congressional Record Volume 144, Number 56 (Thursday, May 7, 1998)]
[Senate]
[Pages S4460-S4462]
From the Congressional Record Online through the Government Publishing Office [www.gpo.gov]




                           MOTHER'S DAY 1998

  Mr. BYRD. Mr. President, I refer to the third chapter of Genesis, 
verse 20, ``And Adam called his wife's name Eve; because she was the 
mother of all living.''
  This coming Sunday, May 10, is Mother's Day. And, upon awaking that 
morning, some mothers will be treated to a lovingly prepared culinary 
surprise, and a glue-streaked--but treasured--handmade card. Others 
will be invited to brunch or to lunch or to dinner with their children 
and, perhaps, grandchildren, many of whom may have traveled long miles, 
some perhaps from one edge of the continent to the other, to help honor 
their mothers and grandmothers on this very special day, a day that 
originated in West Virginia, Mother's Day.
  In my own case, and that of my wife, we will be visited by our two 
daughters, Mona Carol and Marjorie Ellen, and their husbands, Mohammad 
and Jon, respectively. And we will also be visited by our five 
grandchildren. I will name them in the order of their ages: Erik Byrd 
Fatemi, and then Mona Byrd Moore, Darius James Fatemi, Mary Anne Moore, 
Fredric Kurosh Fatemi. They will all come to our house, the Lord 
willing, this coming Sunday, and they will bring flowers to my wife 
Erma. And we will sit and talk for awhile, and then we will have those 
beautiful flowers and those beautiful thoughts and those beautiful 
memories that will be with us for--in the case of the flowers, all 
summer; in the case of the thoughts and memories, as long as we live. 
Others of my colleagues will experience the same visits from their 
daughters and granddaughters. And this will go on all over the country, 
with children coming back home, the family circle again coming 
together.
  This weekend will be one of the busiest weekends of the year, one of 
the busiest for florists who deliver baskets and bouquets of long-
distance love. As for telephone lines, they will be busy also, carrying 
the loving voices of sons and daughters, unable to make the long 
journey home. Some will be calling from foreign lands, but they will 
make those calls to mother.
  This annual outpouring of affection and appreciation gives me hope 
that the strength of family feeling in this Nation has really not 
diminished all that much, but ever how much, is too

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much. Yet, those feelings are still strong. Despite the afternoon hate-
fests on television that sometimes pass for talk shows, in which high 
ratings are garnered by mother-daughter rivalries or mother-son 
conflicts that devolve into circus sideshows, caring and affection are 
still widespread among ordinary families like mine, and like the 
families of others here.
  I cannot adequately describe how proud I am that the strength, the 
character, and the devotion that my wife Erma instilled in our 
daughters have carried through their families and are manifested in the 
fine families that my grandchildren are building. And I know that other 
Senators are just as proud of their families as I am of mine. I have 
said many times that the love and confidence and support of my family 
have helped me through the hardest moments of my life--I have had some 
pretty tough moments--and have sweetened every victory, and there have 
been some victories.
  ``Simply having children does not make mothers,'' someone has said, 
but a good mother is a pearl without price, for a mother's role in 
maintaining a civil and decent society is incalculable.
  I say mothers here, not to denigrate the active role played by many 
fathers in the lives of their children today, but in recognition of 
that fundamental tie between a mother and her child--between a mother 
and her children. It is mother who wakes first at night to soothe the 
fevered brow. It is mother whose kisses are better than Bactine at 
taking the sting out of the tender skin. It is mother whom you call 
when things are really, really bad, no matter your age. It is mother 
who teaches us love. Mothers are our first and our best role models, 
whose wisdom and training guide us through our headstrong teenage years 
and comfort us when we are older.
  Napoleon Bonaparte said, ``The future destiny of the child is always 
the work of the mother.'' To raise children to become good citizens is 
a challenge, and it seems that today there are so many more malign 
influences out there, working to bend that childish twig into a 
blighted and twisted tree. ``As the twig is bent, the tree is 
inclined,'' it has been said. And, so, as I have stated, there are so 
many more malign, malignant influences out there everywhere, working 
today, than there were when I was a child, working to bend that 
childish twig into a blighted and twisted tree.

  When I was younger--I will not say when I was young, I am still 
young, as young in spirit as ever--but when I was a boy, there was no 
television, thank God; no television, and only very limited radio 
programming. That was back in the days when radio was good. We had an 
old Philco radio, just a little radio that sat on a shelf on the wall.
  Of course, during the years when I lived as a country boy ``out in 
the sticks,'' as we sometimes are prone to say, we had no radio at our 
house. We had no electricity in the house. No radio, no running water, 
no electric lights. But we moved later to a coal camp where we did have 
a radio, the Philco that sat on the wall shelf.
  A trip to the movie theater was rare. I remember that the strong man 
in the old silent movies was Joe Bonomo, and the cowboys were Tom Mix, 
Hoot Gibson, Jack Hoxie, and William Desmond. But there was no Internet 
and no video, not even a school library in the two-room schools that I 
attended. But later on when I was in high school, there was a school 
library. Then there was Bible class on Sunday. It was, in many ways, an 
easier time, a simpler time in which to rear children; it was much more 
easy to protect children against corrupting material.
  I am no Luddite opposing technology and progress. Isaiah said that we 
would have progress. He said:

       Prepare ye the way of the Lord, make straight in the desert 
     a highway for our God.
       Every valley shall be exalted, and every mountain and hill 
     shall be made low: and the crooked shall be made straight, 
     and the rough places plain:
       And the glory of the Lord shall be revealed, and all flesh 
     shall see it together. . .

  So Isaiah foresaw the diesel motor train, the submarine, the 
underocean cable. He foresaw television. He foresaw that wonderful 
nuisance, the telephone, and all of these inventions, of course, would 
level the hills and all flesh would see the glory of the Lord together. 
That was Isaiah.
  I am no Luddite opposing technology; I am for it. And progress, of 
course, I am for that, too.
  With the bad comes the good, and with the good comes the bad. 
Children, unfortunately, have access to pornography on the Internet, 
but they also have access to Shakespeare and to Milton and to Carlyle. 
They have access to their Government and to many other sources of 
useful and intellectually stimulating information.
  With television and with videos, our children can visit the world and 
see history in the making. But a parent's job, the mother's job or the 
father's job, is harder. It is more difficult to protect your children 
from material that may be too seamy or too misleading. It is more 
difficult to shield your children from language that is profane, 
offensive, vulgar. It is more difficult to demonstrate acceptable 
behavior when aggressive drivers, offensive song lyrics and violent 
behavior are present on the streets, in the air and on television, 
therefore, right in your living room. Seemingly everywhere, everywhere.
  When sports heroes spit in the face of the umpire or choke their 
coaches, their fans--some of them--may think it is all right, because 
one will probably also notice that not enough of a penalty was 
attached. When the news is full of lawyers or politicians or 
commentators throwing out slurs and wild allegations, youngsters may 
think that courtesy and respect are not needed in business or public 
life. By the way, John Locke wrote a constitution in 1669 for the 
government of the Carolinas. In John Locke's constitution, there could 
be no lawyers. No fees could be charged in John Locke's constitution. 
Every law would sunset at the end of 100 years. That was John Locke's 
constitution.
  Hence, when the kind of language that I have been discussing, when 
the kind of behavior permeates the schoolyard and the neighborhood, it 
soaks into youngsters like water into a dry sponge.
  When I see children of all ages celebrating their mothers on Mother's 
Day, I am encouraged. It means that many mothers and fathers are 
overcoming the difficult challenges placed before them. They are 
succeeding in building families. They are strong enough, caring enough, 
supportive enough to fend off the disrespect that surrounds them and 
who see no shame--no shame--in following the dictate of the Bible to 
honor thy mother and thy father. ``Honor thy father and thy mother.'' 
These surely are families that spend time together around the dinner 
table.
  I am overjoyed when I see my grandchildren come into my home. They 
are really, grown men and women.
  They still kiss me on the cheek. It does not make any difference how 
many people are around, they still kiss me on the cheek--that 
demonstration of heartfelt, genuine love and affection that can only 
come from children. Oh, as an aside, I might add, not altogether 
jokingly, but also from my little dog ``Billy.''
  These are families that spend time around the dinner table. These are 
families in which the children do their homework, in which parents know 
their children's teachers and their friends, families in which the 
members help and encourage and support each other through triumph and 
tragedy.
  We spend a lot of time in the Senate talking about children, what 
priceless treasures they are, and the things we ought to do or ought 
not to do to help them. I am happy today to look past those young gems 
in our national treasury, to recognize and honor the mother lode from 
which they issue, the ore that shapes them--clear, flawless, and true 
in all of their colors--their mothers. I hope that the mothers on my 
staff enjoy their Mother's Day festivities, and that they, and my wife 
Erma, the mother of my daughters, who are the mothers of my 
grandchildren, and all mothers around the Nation, know that I salute 
them, encourage them, and honor them this Sunday and every day.
  I salute the mothers on my staff. It is very difficult for them and 
for mothers on the staffs of other Senators. They have to be dedicated, 
and they do make a sacrifice in order to serve. And it is a sacrifice 
that can never be retrieved or recouped. My admiration and respect go 
out to all of the young mothers who work in this great Senate family.

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  Now, I lost my mother when I was 1 year old. She died in the great 
influenza epidemic in 1918. She died on Armistice Day. And I had what I 
thought were three brothers and one sister. Only about a month ago, I 
found that I had another brother, a fourth brother, who had died at 
childbirth. I did not know that until about a month ago.
  In 1918, times were very hard. My father worked in a factory that 
manufactured furniture. The Spanish flu killed 500,000 people in this 
country, and, according to estimates, more than 20 million people 
around the world. My mother knew that she might not recover, and so she 
asked my father to give me, the baby, to his sister Vlurma. I believe 
he had 10 sisters. And my other brothers were to be farmed out to 
others of his sisters.
  But I was given to my father's sister Vlurma and her husband, Titus 
Dalton Byrd, and they raised me. They did not have much of an 
education, but they gave me their love and they urged me to do right. 
They had the Holy Bible in the house. They could barely read, but the 
example that they set was a shining example of a couple who revered 
God. They did not wear their religion on their sleeves. They were not 
of the religious left or the religious right or anything of that 
nature; they were just good persons, trying to make an honest living 
and according to God's will.
  I can imagine my own mother, had she lived; I have no recollection of 
ever having seen her, naturally, by virtue of her having gone away when 
I was just a year old. But the woman who raised me gave me tenderness 
and love and affection. I can see her wearing her bonnet and her apron. 
She was a hard worker. I can see her, as others in this Chamber can see 
their own mothers, I am sure, especially as most Americans who are 
perhaps not as old as I am, can remember their mothers, especially 
those who lived out in the country, out on the farm, wearing their 
bonnets and their aprons as they worked in the kitchen.
  Those were old-fashioned mothers. We picture them in our minds. My 
mom, I used to watch her as she cooked the meals when I was a little 
boy. And I would hear her sing. And I would hear her use an expression: 
``Well, you put in a pinch of this and a pinch of that.'' They did not 
have cookbooks. And my mom probably could not have read a cookbook, in 
any event. But I often heard her use that expression: ``A pinch of 
this, a pinch of that.'' They did not use recipes; they just knew about 
how much of this ingredient to put in, how much of that to put in, and 
how long to cook it. By experience, they learned to cook. They were 
great cooks--great cooks.
  Well, as I think of that woman who raised me, I think of the old-
fashioned mother that most of us can remember. And I will close with a 
few lines that take off on my mom's expression, ``a pinch of this, a 
pinch of that.'' Now, I did not write this poem. I do not remember the 
name of the author. It is a fitting poem:

     When Mother use to mix the dough,
     Or make a batter--long ago;
     When I was only table high,
     I used to like just standing by
     And watching her, for all the while,
     She'd sing a little, maybe smile,
     And talk to me and tell me--What?
     Well, things I never have forgot.

     I'd ask her how to make a cake.
     ``Well, first,'' she'd say, ``Some sugar take
     Some butter and an egg or two,
     Some flour and milk, you always do,
     And then put in, to make it good--''
     This part I never understood
     And often use to wonder at--
     ``A pinch of this, a pinch of that.''

     And then, she'd say, ``my little son,
     When you grow up, when childhood's done,
     And mother may be far away,
     Then just remember what I say,
     For life's a whole lot like a cake;
     Yes, life's a thing you have to make--
     Much like a cake, or pie, or bread;
     You'll find it so,'' my Mother said.

     I did not understand her then,
     But how her words come back again;
     Before my eyes my life appears
     A life of laughter and of tears,
     For both the bitter and the sweet
     Have made this life of mine complete--
     The things I have, the things I miss,
     A pinch of that, a pinch of this.

     And, now I think I know the way
     To make a life as she would say:
     ``Put in the wealth to serve your needs,
     But don't leave out the lovely deeds;
     Put in great things you mean to do,
     And don't leave out the good and true.
     Put in, whatever you are at,
     A pinch of this, a pinch of that.''

  Mr. President, I yield the floor.
  The PRESIDING OFFICER (Mr. Roberts). The Senator from Kansas is 
recognized.
  Mr. BROWNBACK. What a stirring speech from the Senator from West 
Virginia on such a fitting time and occasion, on Mother's Day. I just 
did my note to my mother this morning for Mother's Day. I sent a poem--
not orally delivered; I think orally is much better than in writing.
  As you reflect and talk of the essence of motherhood, it seems it is 
the essence of love you are talking about. It reminds me of what we are 
called to do. We are called to love--to love our Lord, our God, with 
all our heart, mind, soul, and flesh, and to love our neighbor as 
ourselves. Mothers seem to exemplify that perhaps better than anybody 
does.
  How fitting, on National Day of Prayer, when we are praying for our 
Nation, why not add a prayer for your mother, too, and pray for the 
mothers of the country who rock the cradle, who lead us in many places, 
in many facets.
  I can see my own wife, today, with our three children, leading them 
and leading us and leading our family--that central unit of the 
Republic, the family.
  I am very touched by the Senator's speech.

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